My almost 5 year old is adhd?

I talked to the doctor about it and they act like I'm lying or they just dont care. She also has a bedwetting problem (has her whole life) and they said "oh well its normal until they are 16." I think this doctor is a moron jerk and its time for me to find a new doctor.

Does anyone have an adhd child and if you do, when did you get medication for them? Any suggestions?

I feel bad wanting to put her on medication but it disrupts our family and makes our life and hers very hard.

Thank you all for your advice -

(the ones who were terribly cruel when you have no idea about me or my child- I do not thank you)

You need to go to a child psychologist. They can run tests to make sure it is ADHD and not something else going on (medical or psychological) that are causing her to have these symptoms. You dont want to medicate your child without a diagnosis from a psychologist. You wouldnt take medication for high cholesterol without first taking a blood test to test your cholesterol level. In the same way, you ought not medicate for ADHD unless she is tested. Otherwise you may be medicating the wrong thing and it could be harmful to her.

I believe that most children that are diagnosed with ADAH are wrongly so. Children need attention and love. When they don't get what they need they act out in ways that are disruptive and hyper. If you are pregnant with your 5th child it is very possible that your near 5 year old is suffering from insufficient attention and care.

I recommend that you evaluate your life and make your children a higher priority. I am not saying you are not a good Mother. I am suggesting that there might need to be some changes in your life so that you can properly care for all your children.

My sons were deep sleepers and would wet the bed because they couldn't wake up to go. I began limiting how much they were allowed to drink 2-3 hours before bedtime.

Medication is more than likely not the answer to your problem. Unless you want your child to be zoned out and non responsive.

I will probably get alot of flack for this- but I think that with meds parents often times use that instead of actually addressing issues with their children. My daughter had a psychiatric evaluation and "showed signs" of ADHD. I personally think that is crap. She is very active and gets into trouble often, but it is nothing that can't be fixed without doping her up. Consistency is the key to discipline and follow through with whatever you tell them ALWAYS. Did you know that the meds are amphetamines? Same thing as meth- it works opposite on people who are ADHD, but still would you want your child on legal dope?

bedwetting can be a sign of stress for a child, I would not disregard the fact that your child could be stressed about something. Get a second opinion. bedwetting should not be common at age 16...actually bedwetting is never ok unless a child might be sick or it was/is just the occasional accident. My son is 4 and he hasn't wet his bed since he was potty trained at 2 years old.

the bed problem i cant explain but if you look up adhd everone in the world has it except for like 1%
and for medicine, the parents need therapy just to give it to their children but its safe it last a few hours and goes no side affects at all and it wont hurt you family at all it will improve it

mabey you're just a bad parent

Children are not typically diagnosed with ADHD until at least 2nd grade. The behavior has to occur in more than one environment and school is an environment where the symptoms are typically triggered. Five year olds are normally impulsive and active. Their brain has not developed to the point that they can delay gratification and think beyond theirselves and what is appropriate.

In regards to bedwetting, it is common due to the cause being physiological. Many times the bladder has not grown to be able to hold the volume of urine produced over night or the control mechanisms in the brain have not developed. It can take as long as 12 years and sounds like 16 in some cases.

I do not think the doctor is reacting inappropriately. To dive into medication without being certain of the diagnosis would be careless and unethical. Also, a large part of treating ADHD is behavior modification -- not medication! Some children need the medication as a springboard, but the behavior therapy is paramount. There is no quick fix.

I would like to suggest enrolling in a Developmental Psychology course at your local college. I think it will help to understand the 'norms' of child development so that you have that added comfort. It is a basic course and most people enjoy it. Unfortunately, children do disrupt but when you learn the skills in dealing with their behavior it becomes much easier.

First, Ive talked to a lot of specialists about ADHD & ADD because I thought for a long time that my son had it. They say that parents are too quick to assume that a child suffers from this because they cant handle their behavior. You DO NOT want your child on medication. My sister was on ADHD meds her whole life and she is the most Effed up individual I have ever known and I love the girl, but its true. I made some lifestyle changes and to my surprise my son was drastically better. Wetting the bed is very normal for kids, especially when they are only 5 years old. You need to remember, most kids now days arent even potty trained until they are almost 4 years old and that is considered average. Make sure you do a lot of research and talk to different specialists about these conditions. All kids are hyper active, there are just the few and far between that "seem" normal because they are quiet. If your child watches a lot of TV, make that stop and take his/her tv out of their bedroom if there is one in there. This is one of the MAIN things children become so hyperactive from. Im not preaching either, I did a lot of research and decided "against" medicating my son because of all the side affects. Let you little guy grow, things will change you'll see. You should be more concerned about his happiness and well being and not about how it disrupts your family. That is mean to say about your own child. My son drives me nuts, but I notice when I give him more positive attention he is better well behaved.

You need to take your child to someone else. Never stick to a doctor that makes you feel dumb or doesn't listen to you, they of course don't have to do everything you say, I just mean that they take the time and really listen, unfortunately you have to shop around.

Take your child to someone who specializes in psychiatric issues for kids. I have two ADHD kids, I used to be against meds, but OMG! I couldn't believe the difference.

Trust me if your child is really ADHD and they start taking meds, their self esteem will increase, along with their grades!

Bed wetting can be a flag for abuse, sexual abuse, or other medical problems.

Plus I always suggest parenting classes to people....that is another stress reliever......Parenting is very difficult stuff...and you can screw kids up the more information and tools the better! I have taken a few and one of the best was love and logic, but there are a lot of them out there to check out.