My son is 20 yrs old and has had been diagnosed with adhd ( at birth practically )?

to OCD's to Bi-polar disorder. Needless to say had a very difficult time with school. Special ed classes even though he had a very high IQ. Just very high frustration level. Has no social skills. At 16 and the very begining of high school he was diagnosed with schoid personality disorder. NOT SCHIZOPHANIA. He only has contact with me, his father is deceased. Against my better judgement and to keep my sanity ( teachers treated him like he just didn't care or didn't try ) when it was misunderstood as retreating inside himself to handle the stressors. I took him out of school and tryed home-schooling. to make a long story short, That didn't work. I now have a 20 yr old who has not been outside of the house for 4 yrs. Rarely speaks, And I know I am to blame when it comes to life/ social skills. He is currently recieving ssi benifits. I know there has to be some kind of aid where he can go to get 1on 1 teaching. life skills. transitioning to finishing his education and career. Spending the last 2 hours researching Gov. benifits for special needs children and I say children because he still has not matured mentally. When he went for his ssi interview I was told that these places DO exist. HELP !! I am also recieving ssi for depression and panic attacks, and am healthy enough now where I can help my son. With your help I need to get him un dependant totally from me. I am very afraid for him. and again I know I am totally to blame so please dont judge me. (spell check went away, sorry for the mis-spellings)

None of the answers are even coming close to my question. Schiod pesronality disorder is alot like autism, that is what i am dealing with now and we need a place where we can go to get special help with education and transitioning to a work environment. Career training for the mentally challanged, and I KNOW THEY EXIST.

Definitely there are programs out there to help, I don't know where you are located but call your local Department of Social Services and start asking questions they should be able to help you on a path to get your son the help he needs. If you do not feel comfortable calling local social services then try the local junior college or high school, there might not be help at those locations but they may have good suggestions as to who you can contact to get the ball rolling. Lots of help out there that's just a phone call away. Extremely important that you do not allow this to go unchecked, this is a quality of life issue for both your son and yourself. I wish you both peace and wellness, and please keep in mind our lives are a gift and very short so don't forget to live it up and have fun!!

im sorry about your husband, wow, you did all this for your sons well being, usually parents wont be able to handle all that, i don't know how i could help, but all i could think of is hiring someone to help you with your son, so you could get a break, and keep searching for orginizations, or whatever you called them for help. hope it helps

Honnestly, I don't think your giving yourself enough credit. You took him out of school to build his self esteem back up. I have short term memory loss. Teachers tell me 24-7 that I'm not trying or not paying attention. Ugh I hate it. There are classes, it will be a slow process, but it'll pay off. I don't think he'll be totally indepenent. You'll always be his closest friend I think; I don't know any businesses that help with social wok right of my head..I'm sure that you'll find a place for him. I'll be praying for you. :] You are a good mother, you didn't do anything wrong. He'll get more, new friends. Once he has a few good friends, then he'll learn how to act with other people. Socilize better. Well I hope this helped some. Good luck. :]

Ok. Im sorry that i cannot help you directly in the way you are asking,
but i just felt i needed to inform you that none of this is your fault.
i know i cannot have experienced what you have, although i have had some experience with children with mental disabilities, and none of it can be helped. believe me when i say this, because once you do it will make it so much easier for you to help your son and, in turn, yourself.

First of all, this is not your fault that he is having this difficulty. You have tried to do your best, and what was right at the time. Dealing with ADHD children and adults is very challenging and not at all easy. ADHD people can be very smart, but many things can bother them, they can be easy to get along with, or have times of irritation and then become annoyed and difficult. When the schools make it even more difficult, that can be very trying on any parent. The parent usually knows the child/student wants to do well, but the teachers are trying to run a classroom with a lot of students, and probably a lot of ADHD ones, too. In order to finish things, your son needs to learn what he really likes. He may need to try to think about that, and what will be worth learning about. Do you think he has any special talents or interests? Try not to place blame, since this is your son and this is the person you are dealing with. ADHD people can learn when it is something they like. Then, they are able to put themselves into it. You were a good enough parent to try to devote YOU to your son. That is a lot. So, first, believe you have done some good things. Now, your son needs to try to find some good things about himself, and you both need to do that. Maybe you can do that together, once in awhile. If you stop blaming yourself for doing something that the mother of Thomas Edison did - yes, he was ADHD, then you can start giving yourself some credit. There is a group called, CHADD. Try looking that group up. They have a lot of resources and may be of some help, and try going back to the people who told you there are resources - ask them what and where, or who can direct you to them. Try your local school district for some assistance and direction for resources. Also look up an author called, "Dr. Doris Rapp". And - Give yourself some credit. I would not even have attempted to homeschool, and I am pretty determined. You are pretty devoted and your son can begin to believe in himself, just like you should.