Are you a bipolar spouse or know any spoune wiht the disorder?

Please explain how your decisions affected your life. Did you ever get treatment and after you were treated....did your feelings and desires change? Any regrets? Did you lose relationshgips you once thought were done but after treatment found how they were really important? I just need help...I am in love wiht a bipolar who is just hard to deal wiht right now

she has left and cheated...still is but when I distance myself it drives her crazy

it's a thing when some one close to you has a disorder, and yes i did get treated for it but it didn't do any good i was doing other things, adding on to my troubles. yes my feelings & desires changed a great deal, i have know regrets even though i lost a lot as years went by i gain a lot more . i have done a lot to my husband and an sure he wanted to leave but he didn't ( i had asked him why he didn't leave all he said he knew i wasn't to fare gone that i could in be me again) you love your wife like that ,don't let go of here but don't be her enabler.

this is something that you will have to deal with forever so do not enter this relationship lightly or with blinders on. This is definitely one case where love is no where near enough. You have to be dedicated and determined if you are going to be involved with someone who has a very serious mental illness.

Educate yourself on the disorder and take things slowly. Make sure that you are able to deal with all of her moods and that she is in treatment and managing her illness.

I like the suggestion that you also have therapy or a support group for yourself.

If you find that you really aren't able to deal with her for the long term or that it's just going to be too much for you to deal with then it's best that you know that before you marry and have children.

I was married to a borderline, which is less treatable than bipolar, but the depression and impulsive behavior are similar and difficult to deal with. I regret the marriage and I regret staying in it so long, but it would be different if it were someone bipolar who got treatment. I do know happy couples where one partner is bipolar - but it is important that they keep it under control with meds, and it is not something everyone can deal with.

No one can tell you whether this is something that will work out for you. Some may post positive experiences, and some may post negative experiences, but in the end, the choice is yours as to whether to stay involved with your bipolar lover, whether it's right for you or not. Some of us are drawn to the excitement, some of us are put off by the drama, and some of us have to balance both (I'd be the one having to balance both).

She's going to be hard to deal with forever. Bipolar disorder is not something that ever goes away. It can be managed and handled and treated, but not cured. I would hope that you are very supportive and don't just tell her to take her meds and go to therapy. You could use some therapy yourself or a support group to help you learn more about the disorder and how to cope. It is not an easy road. Right now you're more concerned with how this is going to effect you. What you should be concerned about is what your wife is going through. In sickness and in health....this is a long road for you, and you need to get on board.

My sister is bipolar. Actually several people in my family are. THey are difficult to deal with. Even when they are in treatment and getting better than often will slip right back into it. I can't say that I've noticed them have their desires change really...What changes is how they go about fulfilling them. When acting normal they do things the right way...but dear god if their meds are messed up or something there is a general chaos to everything. It's very frustrating to deal with as a sister...I can't imagine how it would be as the spouse/SO....You will have to be very strong (enough for both of you at times) and you will have to be very understanding and forgiving. That's not always easy. But if you really are in love then do whatever you can to help....just don't be overbearing or demanding b/c that can make them act crazy (I've seen that time and again w/ my sister and BIL)
Good luck!

"The choices people make determines the quality of life, not a chemical introduced to the brain. Lives are altered through the power of perception. Happy or sad is just a point of view. By changing the view and taking an honest approach to life鈥檚 problems, people will adjust accordingly." (Martin, 2008).

Anyone and everyone can get a grip on life (barring severe head trauma or infection to the brain). Hard work, determination and honesty are some of the keys. Problem is.... it is too easy to claim mental illness thus removing self responsibility. Your wife will continue her behavior because she CAN... there are no real consequences. You will take her back in a heart beat and she knows it. You are probably still giving her money, am I right?

Javi, I strongly urge you to read the research paper, The Bipolar Bamboozle. You can access this at: http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m2...

There are support groups for the friends and families and carers of people with bipolar disorder. If you do not know where you can access support, contact your nearest mental health service or access the internet for as much information as you can. Being informed and in touch with others who contend with similar situations, can make the world of difference for you and your loved one.

i was diagnosed with PMDD about four months ago. it's called, premenstrual dysphoric disorder. basically, it means that i am bipolar during my period due to underlying depression and PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder).

i could tell something was really wrong, when each month i would completely flip out....to the point where my family would just go away and leave me alone in fear that they might harm me due to my outbursts. they were also concerned that i'd harm them, or even myself. it was then that i'd gotten into "cutting" as a way to deal with my pain.

i had one huge outburst, that resulted in my attempt at suicide. my husband could take no more and told me that if i did not go to the doctor, he would leave. it was too much to bear - really, for him, me and our child. ...and he was right.

i went to the doc, got diagnosed, began some therapy and counseling, and started taking meds.

my family is happier, i am much happier - and so less stressed. the thing for me was, for years, i thought that getting help for mental disorders meant that i was too weak and couldn't handle my problems on my own. i let my ego get in my way and tell me that i could handle it without help - after all, i'd gotten so far already. i was wrong. it took me to listen in order to understand just how wrong i was.

years, and i do mean years, of depression and i wouldn't admit it. the only thing i regret is not admitting sooner.

good luck!

My ex is bi-polar. It complicated issues within himself and made marriage with him very difficult, and in the end impossible...this does not mean it can't work out for you, You accept what can't be helped, and do not tolerate what can be helped in other words as long as the bi-polar person is responsible in living with the disorder, remains under the care & guidance of a psychiatrist and a therapist, takes their meds responsibly, and does not use the disorder as a scapegoat to run from responsibilities, culpabilities for bad behaviors, and as an excuse to treat others and any shame-full way they wish, it can work....as long as the non-bi-polar partner is supportive, and understanding.

Learn as much as you can about the disorder......see about sitting in on therapy sessions if allowed to gain a better understanding, sit down with a one on one with a mental health care professional to school you in bi-polar disorder. Read. Actress Patty Duke has exellent books on the disorder-she is bi-polar. Insight is marvelous.There is power in knowledge.

For me, the ex was impossible in the end, he was abusive and very manipulative (he finally walked out on us) For the vast majority of bi-polars, they manage well despite the speed bumps along the way (expect them)....the road is a bumpy one but as long as BOTH work with it, the relationship can be successful.....good luck.

Bipolar disorder treated can be bearable. Bipolar not in treatment, give it up. Just because she is bipolar, doesn't mean she has to cheat. If you want to be with her you are going to have to learn to live with her bizarre behavior, but you'll need to ask her for assurances that she can be faithful.

My fiance is bipolar and so am I, we are on the right medications and very stable. It hardly effects us at all... except my fiance is a lot more clingy than the average man but that has to do with his past (homelessness, single father, divorced parents who fought all the time) not the bipolar issues. I deal with it because I really love him. If you love a person you can deal with pretty much anything.

My ex was bipolar and it made my life miserable. That was a huge reason for the divorce because she got on one of her "down times" and thought that cheating would make her feel better. I only now date women wiith a clean bill of health!

My mom is bipolar and never sought (medical) treatment. Her and my dad's marriage has been rocky (whose hasn't), but they've worked it out and have been together for 25 years now. She keeps life interesting.