Domestic violence against women is a crime; domestic violence against men is justice?

Does anyone else get this impression when they see things like this http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=LlFAd4YdQk...
(Notice especially what happens at about 2 mins 30).

Why is the prevailing attitude in the West 'domestic violence against women is a crime; domestic violence against men is justice'?

For some reason, I didn't feel as bad for that guy being beaten as I felt for the woman in the beginning when she was being abused.
I don't know why but somehow dv against men doesnt seem that damage-causing as dv against women does.
It's totally unfair though, I agree. Yet I couldn't bring myself to really feel the same about both cases. Somehow the man abusing woman seems to have more damange, more humiliation and more trauma, than woman abusing man. Eveyone feels so and so do I. I need to change my attitude perhaps. Dv is a crime no matter what gender the abuser is, so it's unfair that only men are blamed.

Most people don't know that women are as physically aggressive, or more aggressive, than men in their relationships with their spouses or male partners.

You would never guess it from the Violence Against Women Act and all the domestic violence campaigns that seek to portray men as the only perpetrators and women as the only victims.

I don't agree with your statement, I think all domestic violence is a crime.

Most of how people react to witnessing the public displays of abuse is a reflection of their own life experiences. If they automatically see a male victim as "deserving" of the abuse, what sort of experiences would lead to that opinion?

I'm not saying it's fair or justified, I'm just commenting on human psychology.

Let me mention that it's because domestic violence against men isn't taken as seriously. If a man tried calling the cops because he was being beaten up by his wife, he very likely would be laughed at and told to be a man and stand up for himself. Until these attitudes change, this is going to continue to be the way domestic violence is handled.

That's the toxic influence of cultural Marxism/political correctness in our societies.


"Third, just as in classical economic Marxism certain groups, i.e. workers and peasants, are a priori good, and other groups, i.e., the bourgeoisie and capital owners, are evil. In the cultural Marxism of Political Correct certain groups are good 鈥?feminist women, (only feminist women, non-feminist women are deemed not to exist) blacks, Hispanics, homosexuals. These groups are determined to be "victims," and therefore automatically good regardless of what any of them do. Similarly, white males are determined automatically to be evil, thereby becoming the equivalent of the bourgeoisie in economic Marxism."

Domestic violence is a CRIME period. It doesn't matter what gender, what age...! I was watching a re-run of cops and they took a 91 year old lady to jail for poking her friend in the arm with a knife.

I read in the paper all the time where both man and woman were taken to jail for domestic violence. Usually, it's after a few rounds of refreshing alcoholic beverages, a couple dose a meth, and they don't remember each other's names, let alone what they started to fight about...they still both end up in jail...nonetheless.

People are idiots who believe all the sensationalist media BS about needing to watch themselves and their kids around every man because men are the ones who do these things.

Luckily, people are getting through that fog and seeing things more realistically, I think that'll continue.

The BS of "Men should NEVER hit women" turned into, "Watch out! Men are on the prowl, woodchippers in tow! Here's 8 ways for women to fight back!"

We're swinging back to reality, but after so many years of having this BS drilled into our heads, is it any wonder men and women both are taking their sweet *** time to shift their views?

It's ludicrous, it bites, but try and have some patience while people catch up with the times.

I get that impression when people make female-perpetrated abuse seem like it's a lesser crime. I hate that. Do not men have the same right to live free from abuse as women have? Should they have to sit there and take it because their abuser is supposedly weaker? That's sick! And yet so many people think that way. It drives me insane.

And I suspect this attitude exists as a result of sexism. Women are victims; men are aggressors. If a woman hits a man he must've earned it somehow because men are jerks and women would never be mean all on their own. It's sexism, pure and simple.

Violence against men is a crime and violence against women is a crime.

If I saw someone being beaten up in the street I would be just as likely to step in and try to stop it if a woman was hitting a man or a man was hitting a woman.

Domestic violence isn't justice as people don't deserve to be treated like that.

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GWS feminists always counter with "it's wrong and illegal when both genders do it", as if that changes the reality of the situation. Oh excuse me, a 91 year old lady on "Cops" went to jail for a stabbing. How stupid of anyone to comment how lightly society regards female against male violence.

The ''domestic violence against women is a crime; domestic violence against men is justice'?' attitude is insanity bordering on misandry. We can only hope such people are a minority.

After generations of blaming men for everything AND absolving women of blame it's little surprise to see people assuming tthe man 'deserved' it.

All men are evil unless they are gay or black in which case they are jealous of your looks or money, respectively.

Because men in the west (white men in particular) are viewed as oppressors.

Domestic violence should be a crime not a gender.

Yes violence towards men is almost glamorized, praised and hailed

Welcome to the brave new world of Feminism.

I completely agree with you.

I鈥檓 not really sure of the background that most people have here (meaning where they鈥檙e from, and what鈥檚 their culture). But growing up within my community; violence against either sex in many way was accepted. Everyone I knew as a kid would fight their way through disputes and disagreements (including myself). I can recall plenty of times my siblings and I picked my mother up from the living room floor; piecing together her cloths and furniture after defending herself against the wrath of my father. And for the many people who resort to physical abuse during a dispute; it鈥檚 safe to say that this was similar scenario for them as well. Most abusers have witnessed, lived through, and become a major component in the emotional and psychological machine that breeds abusers and victims. They鈥檝e seen people in their family abused, so they assume it鈥檚 ok and acceptable to become the abuser. And this is gospel for both men and women. As kids, all we knew was fighting, so we in turn fought amongst ourselves. My sister and two brothers have become victims of physical assault at the hands of someone they where either dating or engaged too as a result of the upbringing we suffered from.

Because of this, I became an advocate for victims (men, women and children) of domestic violence; because its was at one point in time a 鈥榙irty secret鈥?that America would keep behind closed doors. There was a time when there was no laws, and no advocates that would assist women, even men with DV advocacy. There was time when there was no Woman鈥檚 Shelters for the battered and abused, and there was a time that the VAWA didn鈥檛 exist. So I wanted to assist those (men, women and children) who don鈥檛 know where to seek help, much less if there鈥檚 any assistance available too them. Ad because I lived through it with my mother, I understand the seriousness of the affects that abuse has on everyone involved. I鈥檝e seen all sides of this tetrahedron of abuse. I鈥檝e seen the abusers and how dysfunctional their life was (and is), I鈥檝e seen the lack of self-esteem and confidence within the abused, and I鈥檝e seen the emotional, physical, and psychotically affect it has on the children caught in the middle. I鈥檝e even seen the affects it has on the family and friends who try and step in to give assistance to the abused, and how it changes the way they not only see life but how they view their own relationships with the opposite sex. So because of this, for me abuse in any form is not acceptable, and I鈥檝e seen many users here agree with me on this time and time again. So why we keep seeing posters here draw the conclusion that DV against men is acceptable I don鈥檛 know? Because I haven鈥檛 seen a user in the right mind agree with that particular assumption to date.

Which brings me to the question, Why do some of you guys keep insisting on believing that the majority of us here thinks DV against men is ok? It鈥檚 not ok when it happens to anyone, not even abuse against animals is given the 鈥榯humbs up鈥? It鈥檚 not seen as justified and there are just as many advocates who fight for the rights of men in these instances as there are for women and children. It also makes me wonder, what advocacy work have you completed to bring this issue to the forefront? And how much time and effort have you put into assisting men who鈥檙e victims of DV? Are you a part of the solution, or are you a part of the problem (by just complaining about it here in Y!A)?

Are you speaking from personal experiance, or are you just ranting against the mythical man-hating feminist again?

Edit: I would also like for someone to tell me (give me proof) where DV against men is glamorized in the media? And show me proof of every female user here being an active member of a feminist organization (sine so many men here tend to think that we all burn bras, hate men, and don鈥檛 shave our legs).

DV is not justice when it's a man that gets beat. But it is funny to many people when they hear of a guy that lets a woman beat him up.

Usually guys will laugh at hearing about this more than anyone. EDIT: even the stories told here are that the investigating cops will laugh or scoff and tell the guy to grow a set. If our own police to not enforce justice in DV cases, tell me who is to blame!!???

I just laugh when I hear idiot people claiming in EVERY answer in regards to this topic that it is solely due to Marxism and some kind of flipping conspiracy. They sound like broken records.

It is the FAILURE of our government and elected officials and the lack of training for police and lack of relief for victims.

Treat each case the same. More awareness, less leniency and harsher punishment for both sides will teach society that it is NOT acceptable behavior.